Sexuality excerpted from the book: A Piece of Cake by Melinda Gallagher, M.A., and Emily Scarlet Kramer  While it's still a serious matter, and maybe the most important choice you will make all day, choosing a casual-encounter partner is, well, more casual than choosing a long-term lover. You don't have to worry about whether you'd want his toothbrush on your sink, whether you'd have to bring him home to meet your parents, or whether he'd get along with your girlfriends. More important, if we always practice safer sex *, we do not have to worry about whether our sex partner will be a good dad. A casual-sex partner does not have to fill your every expectation, but there is one basic requirement: attraction.
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Acting on a feeling of instantaneous attraction can be very exciting; in turn, the feeling that you're so sexy that a stranger is overwhelmed by his attraction to you can be equally mind-blowing. From both perspectives, the possibility of being so passionate with someone we don't know but have a spontaneous sexual connection with is enough to make our heads (or bodies) spin. A perfectly common reaction to physical attraction is sexual excitement, and we can get turned on, often and easily, by people we don't know. Of course, a hot body and good looks can always whet our palates for some lovin'. But above and beyond simple attraction, anonymity, in particular, plays a big role in female fantasy. The exciting part for some of us is particularly that which is not connected to a relationship: the freedom of indulging in attraction without ever having to know someone's name. Pure physical pleasure can be heightened when we are freed from having to consider what will happen when the moment is over. Anonymity resolves the issues of consequences. There are no sacrifices. No one gets hurt. Copyright © 2005 Melinda Gallagher, M.A., and Emily Scarlet Kramer About the Author: Melinda Gallagher, M.A., and Emily Scarlet Kramer are the cofounders of CAKE, an entertainment company dedicated to providing education and information about female sexual culture. Melinda Gallagher is a sexuality professional with a master's degree in human sexuality and public health from NYU. Emily Kramer received her B.S. in women's studies from Columbia University. They both live in New York City. They have spent the last five years writing, speaking as experts in the field of sexuality, and actively educating women on the subject. For more information, please check out www.cakenyc.com. |
