If you ask her why now? She will say it all takes time, If you try get here to fast you don't know what your reaching for, your still hanging on to that life in the past. you come to realize it is a good trade. When you exchange the bewilderment of youth for the wisdom and understanding that comes with age. You can relax and breath a little easier and find a feeling of inter peace. Your feelings don't get hurt as easy, The edges are smoother and sharpe corners are rounded off. You don't feel like your always on duty as (the gaurd dog mom) in charge of protecting the heart of the family. You still worry a little but only more within reason. You can take some time for yourself without any selfish guilt. You will know it's within your reach, When you forget that you are climbing.